Thursday, September 12, 2013

My Thoughts On Blogging and Social Media (Blogtember #8)

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Discuss ways that blogging or social media has changed you.

For a while there social media changed me for the worst. I became addicted to checking facebook every five minutes and it was just really unproductive to be constantly looking for that one status update that might happen. Instagram was the same way the first few months I had a smartphone. I became obsessed with checking in on Foursquare, literally everywhere I went (thank goodness I don't have any stalkers!). Twitter has never really been an issue for me, I think I have about 20 tweets and they're mainly for blog contests... I was so determined not to miss out on something on social media that I wouldn't be truly paying attention to the person in front of me. It shocked me when I finally realized this, it got to the point where one day, I deleted over half of my Facebook "friends", mainly people that I never really was friends with in high school but I just kept just to be able to Facebook stalk their lives now. I realized it's not healthy to be constantly checking up on other people just to compare their successes or failures to my own. I deleted Foursquare and now don't check Facebook and Instagram nearly as much. While I think it would be great to just delete them all, at least Facebook I have to keep because most of the events and people from my professional group all keep contact through it. I think that Instagram would be easier to give up, but I think that unless I become obsessed with checking again, in the end it is fun to use and look at. I think the problem with social media is that everyone is too connected to it and forgets to actually live their life.

On the other hand, I think blogging has had the opposite effect, it's definitely a positive in my life. While I have great friends,  I have a small group of friends, none of which cares about books or fashion or vintage or any of the interests that I share here. This is a great outlet for me to share my interests with others who also have similar interests, and where we can all gather great ideas or support. I'm a very introverted person so it's hard for me to put myself out there in real life and this is a place where I feel comfortable sharing my feelings and knowing that similar-minded people are doing the same. It's kind of like an open diary, the perfect place to look back on your life and smile at all of your fun memories that are documented here in a way that no other type of social media can do. I know that I've read on some larger blogs that they feel pressure to stick to a schedule, or put out more and more and better and better content because of their huge audiences, and that it sometimes feels like an obligation more than a creative outlet. I never want my blog to become that. I am such a small blogger now that this really isn't an issue or even will be in the near future most likely, but if that ever happens, then I will probably stop blogging. I don't think that anyone starts a blog thinking that it is going to be some huge, pressure filled project, I think that it's really to just have a place to share your thoughts in your own way. I love blogging so much that I would never want it to be a burden. I have been reading blogs for five years now, and I have found so much happiness in reading and relating to others and I hope that someone who reads my blog can feel the same way.
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  1. That dress! I swear, if we were neighbors I'd be stealing so many things from your closet. If I wasn't pregnant and knew they'd fit me, anyway! Haha!

    Yeah, I have those days where I wish I was better at writing regular posts, and I feel the pressure of performing just for readers, but then I realize that... it's okay to have my own schedule. It's my blog, I can do what I want with it! And I hope that if it ever gets bigger, I'll still feel that way. I like being on a schedule just because that's how my brain is satisfied-- everything is ordered and timely-- but it's not a huge deal to not post daily or three times a week. It's life!

  2. I agree that social media can take away from the experience of just spending time with people you love, but it does have some good points, too! I've never been particularly active in social media so it's been a struggle trying to engage in it more for blogging purposes! I guess it's all about balance!

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  3. I really enjoyed your post. I love blogging (and Facebook, a bit too much I believe). Social media is sometimes the only way for me to connect with friends who went abroad (and soon I'm going to one of the expats as well). Also social media has brought me to meet lovely people from around the world, some of them I'm meeting on a regular basis every few months. :) xx Olivia

    ps. Adore the dress!!!

  4. I agree with so many of the points you stated! When I was in college I was facebook obsessed, now I just check it a couple of times a day. Blogging is a great way to stay connected and still be able to take a break if need be from the computer. You look lovely in these photos! I absolutely adore your dress!

  5. That dress is so beautiful! And such a great post :) I know it can be difficult to not be obsessed with social media! But I think blogging has been a positive social media outlet in my life as well.

  6. oh wowzers! what a gorgeous dress, that is a "take me out dancing, now!" dress lol! You are such a beauty my dear! Thanks for linking up to Passion For Fashion, looking forward to seeing you again tomorrow xx


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